Graduated in 2012, working as an executive and looking forward to achieving my ever growing wish list…I’m sure many of you can relate to my current scenario, exuberant spirits and optimistic outlook towards life.
Let’s go a step back and analyze how I developed this wish list overtime. Majority of the items were populated based on the societal norms and stereotypes imposed upon me. Exposure to media created this idealistic image of a successful woman of our generation, with a list of pre-requisites. These pre-requisites crept into my mind unconsciously and started creating an agenda of their own. I was too indulged to take notice of what’s happening, till the time these ideas were ingrained in my persona.
As a kid, I aspired to be as cute as Phoebe, as hilarious as Joey, as cool as Hannah Montana, as vivacious as Lindsay and as smart as Sherlock Holmes. My model characteristics and traits were more guided by these fake idols rather than my natural instincts. I desired to achieve popularity, go around the world in 80 days, buy a brand new Mercedes and live in a huge bungalow.
My ideal life didn’t encompass happiness, emotional comfort, values or morals as ultimate goals; rather it was more about perfect physical characteristics coupled with social status and compliance.
It’s weird how I never took out time to analyse, shortlist and modify what I was heading for! I was working continuously towards a set of goals which were never mine…
This leads me to the query of what is our generation heading towards? There are a lot items we desire but we never question! We never question why we want it or what good is in it for us?
Let’s ask ourselves: Why do we need to wear brands even if we don’t feel the need to? Why do we need a 5 star hotel vacation package when we can have fun in our bed with that old torn novel we’ve always loved? Why aim for billions when we can fulfill our needs with a couple of thousands? Why vie for that attire which doesn’t define our personality?
Why that ideal life, husband and children when it’s actually unconventionalities making life more interesting? Why push ourselves to achieve the epitome of something which is not truly us?
It’s not that we can’t be as rich as Bill Gates, as powerful as Obama or as adventurous as Captain Jack…but it’s more about defining our aspirations which are aligned with our intrinsic contentment. Our goals shouldn’t be just defined by the standards super imposed by media rather they should be aligned with our inner satisfaction. And we can reach there by asking a lot of wills and whats to ourselves!
Will I be content when I leave my parents in their hour of need? Will I be held accountable if I don’t explore God and religion whole-heartedly? Will I be happier if I don’t choose teaching just because the world loathes it as a profession? What’s the good in spending our life according to the world and not ourselves?
Let’s wait for a moment and deliberate upon the ultimate destination of our current pathway, incorporate what actually means something and cancel out all the unnecessary inputs!