Colored Reality!

We see what we want to see…perversion, obscenity, liberalism, secularism or piety, many things, if not all; depend on the way we perceive things.

Perception can be deceptive; it can manipulate reality and color it the way you want to. Grey can look black and white can look grey, if your eyes are tilted towards negativity. Many things we see are contextual and but everything we see is perceptually diverted towards our own line of thinking.

You must be wondering that how can our perception be manipulative? But sadly it is and the kind of manipulation you see here is the unconscious manipulation. The manipulation is the addition of personal ‘tinge’ to everything you observe, visualize, implicate and foresee. This personal tinge is an all encompassing and translucent sheath which curtains everything around us. The curtain has components of culture, religion, context, experience, relations, emotions, persona etc. But the curtain is pronounced in its impact when it adds shades of grey and whites to your ‘expectations’.

Let’s review an example:

A lady goes to the market and buys something really heavy (in terms of physical weight). She’s barely dragging her shopping bags over the floor to her car and there comes a gentleman in the scenario. He perceives that girl to be in a difficult situation and his chivalry probes him to help her. He steps forward and asks “Hey, can I help you in carrying that stuff to your car?”

I assume you all perceive it to be a situation of a cordial gentleman, offering a helping hand to a troubled girl. But what if the girl scolds him and in fact shouts at him for getting in her way? Or perhaps the girl snaps at him or ignores him completely?

This is where the girl’s perception manipulated an otherwise simplistic scenario. It doesn’t mean she’s pugnacious or frustrated rather we have to dig deeper before judging her.

She was a girl brought up where being a ‘girl’ was considered equivalent to being ‘vulnerable’ & ‘useless’. She was laughed at, judged and even ridiculed by her family and relatives for being a female. It’s these experiences which then accumulated to create her perceptions. She started perceiving every person’s smile as a mocking attempt on her gender.

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Now, when this gentleman asked to help her, she was bound to perceive it in accordance with her previous experiences. Her heart pumped faster thinking this was another attempt to humiliate her. She didn’t want to feel weak and that’s what precisely a helping hand meant to her.

Now, after looking at the perception formation of this girl, I’m sure you understand the functionality of perception. We often judge and sometimes ourselves misperceive other’s intentions based on this manipulation. So from now on, try to avoid the manipulation, think about the situation in an exclusive context before jumping to conclusive judgments! :)

Piety, Miscalculated?

Oh do you hear the sounds? Sounds from the mosque, announcing the beginning of the most auspicious month of the year?

Ramadan begins…a month, where all Muslims, black or brown, pious or corrupt, we all fast in this month of blessings. Hoping, that our Lord will forgive us, we neither eat nor drink anything, all day long till the sun goes down. Extrinsically keeping up our virtuous image or intrinsically maintaining our dutiful soul, we fast and fast throughout the month.

Despite my sins, negligent attitude towards prayers, indulgence in the world more than hereafter and hence, despite of being a Muslim in the most rugged form, I was fasting & praying on these days. To make sure, that I don’t miss out on those blessings, special blessings that God will shower upon me in this month.

Dried lips and parched tongue…I was randomly waiting for those last ten minutes to pass by, before I could drink a cold glass of water. On the television, they showed how poor families were unable to afford the luxurious aftaris that we enjoyed everyday. I was so annoyed by those videos and was desperately waiting for those ten minutes to pass. But then, my mind just stopped, time slowed down and I started thinking with my weird thinking cap on! Here I am, didn’t eat or drink anything since morning, praying like a monkey to get my wishes through to Allah, but what good does it make to Allah Almighty?

My father’s Taraweh, my mother’s Aftari delights or my sehri skipping to lose weight…all of these, do they have any whatsoever significance in the eyes of the Lord? Well, what good would I do to anyone including Him by doing this? I know its all to control my Nafs (my desires). But isn’t this all pretention? Yes pretending to be pious while desperately waiting for the month to end? No real change does this bring in our lives? We stop eating, fine, but do you seriously believe your Nafs or the devil only deals through your stomach?

Do you stop in Ramadan, when the devil provokes you to ignore the traffic signal, do you control it?

Poor naked children running in the canal and your one look of abhorrence, for your information, that is also the devil!

We love our daughters, but when we look for our daughter in laws, we don’t take a moment to humiliate those girls. Aren’t those the beloved of their mothers?

We might hold a Tasbeeh in our hand 24/7, but if we’ve hurt the heart of another person, the Lord only Forgives when the person forgives! Prayed five times, amazing you are….but just bribed the traffic officer, just miscalculated piety?

Your servant woke you up for Sehri and you forgot to feed him? Is that what the Benevolent Lord taught about your servants?

Loved, adored and obeyed your parents, but just insulted your old driver for not being on time without knowing the reasons behind it? Isn’t Allah Almighty watching you now?

Oh Prayers, Fasting, Hajj, Zakat…are all these enough to let you get away with the sins you commit every moment? Of course, these are some Ibadat, we Muslims are obliged to perform. But a bad human with perfect prayers….does that sound right?

Didn’t Allah put the Rights of His people before His Rights?

I am not an Atheist, or anyone to criticize you or your prayers!

But I shall respect Good Humans & trying to be Good Muslims before those who are Bad Humans & yet trying to be Good Muslims!

In The Name Of Humanity!

With earphones pouring melancholic tunes in my heart, the wind slowly pulling me back from numbness, I felt a lot…a lot happening in my mind today on my way to university.

My eyes were closed, was stuffed in the seat and barely fixed my feet on the ground with a lot of strangers around me in the bus, but yet I tried to sort out the knots within my mind.
A look at the crowd; the rush they were in, the irritation they showed and their struggle to surpass each other in getting a seat, struck my mind. Continue reading